How do I get my mother to grow up? -

How do I get my mother to grow up? -

She still acts like a teenager. She recently lost her job and now depends on me and my sisters to support her. She has some friends of her own but they are a bad influence on her and try to get her to go out and party all the time, she drinks every night and still smokes pot at the age of 46. Every time she tryes to get a new job they make her take a drug test and she fails and blames it on them!! I dont know what to do she is a hippy who refuses to grow up I want her to take controle of her life stop smoking and drinking and become a productive member of society. Please help me help her I dont know what to do any more!!!! By the way I am sorry about the spelling I am wrighting this fast and didn-t check it with spell check. Thank you!I know this sounds mean but if you and your sisters quit helping her she will have to get control of her life. If she drinks every night, she may be an alcoholic, and needs to get help for it. Everyone knows practically every place drugs tests, and she knows she won-t pass. You are being used. Quit helping and she-ll have to get her life on track.Tell her that Santa Claus isn-t real. That should shake her world upside down.call DR PHIL.. your mother needs a wake up call. maybe both you and your sisters should move out. make her get herself together. if she can-t afford the house then sell and split the money.. if you - sisters keep supporting her she will never grow up .. why would she? she has you guys to support her. it is called enabling .I know this will sound mean but it usually works, move out, you-re the kid here, you need to talk to her, say mom I love you but enough is enough, tell her to clean up her act or your out, don-t just say it do it.
Have you ever seen the show * Intervention * you-re mom sounds like she may need something like this. Good luck with this.Sounds like my sister, also 46! Her marriage broke up because she was cheating on her hubby and he got sick of it, got hisself a trucker job and he did the same, took off to NY with a hooker and divorced my sister. The past 15 years she-s been with every Tom, Dick, Harry, and Moby! She dates all races, which is not a big deal anymore but she was with this black man who we all fell in love with, such a sweet man, great for her and welcomed into our family with open arms, He truely loves her, what does she do? Yeah, tonight she got caught with a piece of s hit guy who isn-t worth a piece of s***! Plus the one she got caught with tonight is old enough to be our Dad! 46 and she still hasn-t learned! I feel your pain, she-s not a hippy but she-s defently a hoe, sister or not! Don-t feel alone in your anguish, I-m right along with ya!huh I dunno wish I could helptell her *** off dont support her and let her feel the blow of what shes doing to her selftell her, and keep on telling her. Let her know exactly how you feel about it. Pray for her.

God blesswhat about your dad?Wow!!! That-s tough. Maybe you and your sisters should form an intervention. Find someone in your community that specializes in mediating interventions and can help you and your sisters arrange some help for your mother. It sounds like your mom may need to spend some time in a rehab facility to get herself back to normal. You and your sisters need to come together on this and be the parents and that is always the toughest thing to do. You are going to have to make some tough decisions and that is where a mediator can help you and your sisters to cope. I have attached a link that may help. Good luck.leave her alone, you will never change anyone but yourself.
consider moving out.Can you talk to any other family members about your mom ?
How old are you and your sister, that mom depends on you to support her ?
Do you live at home ?
Your mother needs help, bad, you might need to take drastic measures to get her help.maybe she just needs time and to find God... he can always help!You will learn that there is no way you can force change on anybody. The best you can do is to sit down, tell her that you love her but that you are worried and tell her why. Ask her to get some help, and offer to help her get through whatever she is going through. Obviously she is hurting or she wouldn-t be doing what she is doing. Could be just pure fear of aging. But that is really all you can do. If she doesn-t respond, then that is that.do to her as she done to you when u was a teenager!Well, it-s not fair that jobs won-t hire someone who smokes pot now and then. Fortunately, I-m from in a free country where my rights are not violated for Walmart greeter jobs, so I am allowed this attitude. It-s sad that your mother doesn-t have a lot of education, so that she can get better jobs that don-t require drug testing in America. Did she sacrifice her education to take care of you and your sister?

People who drink and smoke pot can certainly be productive members of society. Don-t be prejudice or blame your mothers recreational activities on that. It-s your mothers lack of education that has got to her.

Did it happen that she stayed home to take care of her children? Did she get pregnant young? Did she marry young? Often when women marry young, have babies too soon or stay at home experience a mid life crisis of sorts when their children become adults. She may feel like she is finally free and can now live her life or experience the things she missed out on because she had children.

Anyways, what can you do? Since you pretty much hate your mother and are completely ungreatful for the things she-s done for you, such as support you as a child, you can just cut her off financially and stop talking to her. She-ll be forced to work here and there to support herself and to enjoy a well deserved party now and then.Stop supporting her and the bad habits. Explain to your mom if she does not get herself together you can no longer support her!I guess the answer to this one could go a couple of ways. If you and your sisters are under age 18 you could call the police on her for her illegal activities that might wake her up. Or if over 18 you could move and then mom would have to take resonsibility for herself. You could also go on Dr. Phil or something and get help from there. She probably is trying to relive some lost childhood or something and she should not rely on her children to take care of her. Also I know she is your mother and you love her but as long as you continue to support her and take care of her you are only hurting her not helping her alcoholics anonomyos has places where family members can go to get help being in situations just like yours good lucktell her she has a sad life.This is not a matter of growing up. Its a matter of understanding - your unconditional love to your mother. She seems so lost - lonely. Have you ever talk to her..a heart to heart talk?..
Good luck - God bless your way.

How do I get my mother to grow up? -