How to talk to my mother about smoking outside? -
How to talk to my mother about smoking outside? -
I am currently in second year university, but live at home as I attend a local campus. For 20 years of my life, I have been inhaling second hand smoke because of both my parents. I also have three younger brothers who breathe in as much as I do. It is making me sick -- I have suffered through pneumonia, several bouts of bronchitis and I have recently developed moderate asthma. Smoke makes it much harder for me to breathe and I cough a lot (so much that my chest is almost always raw or very sore). My parents know this.In the past, I have tried to get my mother in particular to stop smoking, but she-s stubborn so I-ve given up. All I-m asking now is that my parents smoke outside. Their mentality is that if you can-t see the smoke, it-s not there. Opening a window or door is sufficient. If it still bugs me, it-s my problem and I should leave, -cos it-s their house. The thing is, they-re both chain smokers and I cannot afford to move out. What can I do for me and my brothers?I don-t know your ages but you and your brothers should seriously consider moving out. Do you have any relatives you could live with? What about sitting down with your parents and ask them to rent an apartment, along with food and utilites for you and the three younger brothers. Explain to them that their smoking is endangering your lives and since they won-t smoke outside or in one designated area you thought that a good compromise would be for them to put you guys into a healthier home. Also let them know that you-d give some thought to turning them in to Child Protective Services, but you-d rather not have them jailed for child endangerment. If you do this last part, you need to mean it. Saddly, your parents are addicts and as such will do almost anything to protect their addiction. I hope you can get through to them. best wishesIt is their house. A house they paid for with their own money. You live off them. You don-t tell them anything. If they want to smoke inside, they get to do that. Why? IT-S THEIR HOUSE!!!!. Not yours. You don-t like it, move out. Quit your whining, and just go. They may even appreciate that. It would have to be better, then you complaining to them all of time. You can-t afford to move out? It-s called get a job. Try it. Instead of living off mom and dad all of time.
My dad smoked 3 packs a day around my mom, sister, and my myself, and none of us got pneumonia, bronchitis,or moderate asthma. I doubt you are getting it either. That-s why your parents won-t take you serious. You sound like a typical hypochondriac. Problems everywhere, but probably aren-t really there. Moderate asthma, oh please. Asthma is genetic disorder anyway, not a smoking one.just tell them they will have to smoke outside it makes you ill
dont ask them since that will give them the chance to say no
put a ashtray or sand in a bucket out side for them and chairs
also get some no smoking signs and hang them upcall cps. jk jk dont do that unless u have had enough of living with ur parents and want them to go to jail. talk to a counselor at your school. they could help you.
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