A dying man in my care wants to smoke cigs until he dies. Is it moral to let him? -

A dying man in my care wants to smoke cigs until he dies. Is it moral to let him? -

My uncle has lung, kidney, lymphatic AND brain cancer. He only has a short time but it will last longer if he stops smoking cigarettes. If not, his health will get so bad so quick that I will not be able to take care of him and he will have to go to a hospice, which he really doesn-t want. Is it moral to let him smoke himself to death. He almost hates me because I won-t let him smoke. He says he-s 49 and its his decision.Your uncle is absolutely right. He is terminal, he knows it, and nothing in all this world is going to make that any different now, so what is the big deal if he lives the rest of his life in a way that makes him happy? Having worked in a hospice unit for a long time, I have to say that if he becomes bad enough to require hospice, he may no longer -care- about going. He has already smoked himself to death, so let him be happy in his remaining time. God bless you for taking care of him. He is a lucky man to have you.If that is his wish and wants, just let him do it... Let him spend his days peacefully and don-t pressure him to do anything.. Just remember to always keep a lookout on his conditions... When someone diagnose with cancer... the pain to him both physical, internally and even mentally, it too much stress and pain... Their stress, is totally unmeasureable.. worse than stress from work... the pain.. is so painful that we don-t understand..

Just let him do whatever he wants, and take good care of him..why not let him smoke? when it is his time to go, he will go and not a minute before. smoking may relieve stress related to his condition. tell me the truth, if you knew for a fact how long you had to live and that you had no chance of recovery, would you not want to enjoy your life till the end? smoking maybe the only enjoyment that he is getting. you wouldnt want to be treated any different yourself.You are in a predicament, aren-t you... How sad, to watch somebody slowly killing themselves. If he is that bad off, have you consulted his physicians... as to what you are supposed to do, as his caregiver.

Most importantly, I pray for you, your uncle, and your family. May you and your uncle be blessed with the special touch of God. I pray you know Jesus, and have accepted Him as Lord and Savior. I pray for God-s will to be done! And give the true Father in Heaven all the praise for all good things done. In Jesus- precious and powerful name I pray. Amen.

















? Comforting Prayer Warrior ?i-m a certified nurse assistant...i work around all kinds of medically short termed patients and if i was you....the poor man-s going to leave this world soon,not b/c of himself wanting to go out with smoke...but its medically related...let him do what he wants and don-t feel bad.if you wanted one thing before you died,like per say have sex all the time...would you do it until you-re dieing breath?he-s a grown man,he-s dieing...let him make the choice...you just cherish the moments you have with him! tell him you love him,(even if you don-t)encourage things that he can do...try and do it together..you know....if you don-t like him smoking...tell him to take it outside or go somewhere he-s not...Let him smoke...his prognosis is poor! Obviously he was a smoker before his diagnosis, and smoking probably alleviates some of the anxiety he is feeling.

I am an RN on an oncology unit, and although we discourage smoking, our patients will still sneak out and smoke. Please don-t make him hate you for it, and chances are, he won-t smoke that much. I believe smoking will not change his prognosis at this point. Good luck, and show him lots of TLC while you-ve got the chance.With or without cigarettes, the poor man has only a short time left.
Don-t deny him his only pleasure.
Make a deal with him, tell him you-ll allow him to smoke if he agrees to go to local schools and speak to the children about the dangers of smoking. It-s a win/win.OMG you guys have totally made me want to quit smoking today. I originally decided to stop on friday but today is the day. This is scary because he is only 10 years older than me, he couldn-t have been smoking for much longer than I have this is truly scary. So sorry about your uncle.i cant think that smoking will make much difference at this stage. when my mum was dieing i thought the best thing was to make her happy she ate and did what she wanted. the hospice time will come sooner or later so why not just let him enjoy the short time hhe has left, the damage has already been done.I understand where you are. My husband had cancer in 2004 an he wanted to smoke an drink. He was dying we knew there was nothing else that could be done so I let him. What else did he have to look forward to? Yea we found out he had cancer March 2004 an he died Aug 2004. Thank goodness it was so quick..I also took care of him at home till his last breath was taken...God Bless you an your family.It that whats the person want because its also your conscience where you can decide good. If your mind says yes then yes (its just like when you are dying and you want to meet your son but someone don-t want to make in happen. what do you feel? its the same thing the person feel without cigs)If he-s terminal, it doesn-t make a difference whether he smokes or not: he-s still going to die.
If he wants to die with a cigarette in his hand, let him.

My mother smoked up until a week before she died from pancreatic cancer.Yes, it is moral to let him. Let him go happy. Everything else has probably been taken away from him and this is all that he has left and is able to enjoy. After all, it the QUALITY of life, not QUANTITY.He-s right, it-s his decision. Your intentions are good, but he-s an adult of sound mind and you have no right to control his life. And quite frankly if I were in his condition I might want to do the same.well talk to his doctor about this choice. and talk to your uncle too.It sounds a little like you-re still having trouble accepting that he is dieing when you said -Is it moral to let him smoke himself to death-. I went through that stage myself,with my mother. As hard as it is for us to face,it will be the cancer that will kill him,it sounds like it-s too late for cigs to do anything now.

And no,he will not last longer if he doesn-t smoke,the stress from the withdrawls and arguing is what can shorten his life.

My mother died of lung and liver cancer and yes we let her smoke and eat whatever she wanted. But I also tried to stop her,like you did with your uncle until I realized I was making her miserable and depriving her of them or anything else she wanted just hurt her more.

Now that she-s passed on I am so glad my sisters and I did give them to her. We know that we did everything we could to make her last times on earth as happy as we could.

We can-t cure the cancer but we can still make their last days good ones.

Believe me,when he is finally gone,you-ll be glad you did. God Bless you and your Uncle during these terrible times.

A dying man in my care wants to smoke cigs until he dies. Is it moral to let him? -