How can I get my brother to stop smoking pot, popping pills, doing cold medicine, etc? -
How can I get my brother to stop smoking pot, popping pills, doing cold medicine, etc? -
My brother is 17 and every single afternoon and weekend gets high on pot or cold medicine, and pills with his friends. My mom and I have done everything to make him stop. (at least the pot. Since the smell/smoke gets sucked into the central air vents and comes up filling the whole house with the smell, and I also get severely ill when I smell pot at all).We-ve taken away all the stash of it we found, but his friend Matt still brings in more. Matt has already been arrested six times for pot possession and intent to sell, and STILL does it. Somehow these three kids get their hands on pot, pills, beer, etc...we-ve tried taking everything away, removing my brother-s bedroom door, allowing him not to go anywhere, allowing nobody over the house.There-s just no end in sight and none of them want to stop.
So...any suggestions? I-d love to call the police and just turn them all in...but then I fear I would get in trouble too, because in the eyes of the law I-m an adult.no need to stop him because he will soon be deadIt sounds like he needs professional help and may need to be committed to an institution that can help him. I don-t think that calling the cops will help anything. They just exacerbate the problem. The cops might put him in jail. But is that what you want for your brother? The jail system won-t do anything to help his problem. He has an OTC and illicit drug addiction.
We live in a society that thinks it-s perfectly normal and ok to pop pills and elixirs for minor illnesses, drink alcoholic beverages (In the right circumstance, Vodka could fuel a car), eat bad food, or eat food substances that have been industrially processed into drugs (white table sugar), so it doesn-t surprise me that so many people in U.S.A. and other modern societies have problems with substance abuse.
The suggestions by happiebaby are very good alsoThe short answer is you can-t do anything but be there.... Just look at these superstars... until your brother WANTS helps, you can;t help him, but be READY when he does ask... try small steps.... I know it-s scary, I-ve ben there with my daughter, which is why we-re raising our grandson, but she-s STILL not ready to accept help... and no matter what program we throw at her (tough love, phsyotherapists, group meetings, domestic violence classes, moving.. etc...) she goes right back to her old ways, becase she-s not ready to change yet..
Save yourself.. and your sanity... there are classes and help for -survivors- and I found them to be alot of help at the time, and now that we have her child, I-m finding them helpful again.
I hope one day my daughter will walk through my door, clean, healthy and happy, but I-m also now prepapred mentally that may never happen..
You must get yourself to that point... figure it out for yourself, even if it means perhaps some tough love like throwing him out to show him you mean business that you won-t accept that kind of behaviour under your roof. Afterall like you say, you could go to jail!
It WILL come to you, and you will find a half-way peace most days...
Hang in there... Give him the tools... and stand back.. and take care of yourselfHon if y-all don-t get help for him now its the hard stuff next.Talk to a hot line they can give you more info good luck god bless
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