If someone says theyll drink more if they stop smoking marijuana is that a sign of addiction? -
If someone says theyll drink more if they stop smoking marijuana is that a sign of addiction? -
I was with a man for nearly a decade. After we had a child I was hoping he would cut out his marijuana habit as we-d discussed it in the past. I quit when I discovered I was pregnant and he cut back (and apparently hid it from me when he smoked thereafter). We-d had discussions about it in the past and I never thought it was going to be a life-long -lifestyle- and that we-d both grow out of it like our friends did overtime.However when I started talking about how it might be a good idea for him to quit he became very resistant and said that I was trying to -control- him and that he liked living his life that way. He then made several comments, one that -would you rather I drink or smoke pot? Because if I don-t smoke pot I know I-ll drink more.- And this is what alarmed me.
I thought, why does he need either? Then he grew increasingly distant and ultimately ended our relationship after nearly ten years, claiming that I wasn-t accepting him for who he was. Although he says the pot was only part of it it really seemed to be the breaking point for him.
He-s 34 and says he-s not a -pot head- and that he just likes to -smoke pot recreationally a lot-.
Do you think he-s addicted and has a problem?Yes it seems like he has an addictive personality, because he said he would drink if he couldn-t smoke. He probably likes the out of mind feeling and is addicted to that rather then the actual pot!Yes he definately does have a substance abuse addiction because if he can-t have one substance he has to have another. I was married to someone that had a drug issue and when he gave up drugs he started drinking heavily and it turned out to be an abusive relationship. You are lucky to be rid of him...I-m glad I got rid of mine.It is a problem. It sounds like he has an addictive personality.sounds like an addict and that he needs any escape from reality he can get, and is not ready to grow up.Totally
but they should smoke more trees
and drink lessya i think hes got a problem :oI have spoken 2 various health professionals over the years on this thorny point.
Most take the view that this is a matter of lifestyle and habit,
NOT an addiction
As with any bad habit, breaking the pattern is the biggest hurdle.
Seems to me (and I-m being honest) that this is one battle/war u
will not win, unless ur ex - partner admits 2 himself he has a problem, and seeks professional help as a result
U have an adult child here who is irresponsible, selfish, immature and a poor role model
Teaching an old dog new tricks can b done, but only with cooperation, willpower and determination on his part
The -I will drink more alcohol comment- doesn-t sit well with me
and is unconvincing. More of a smokescreen me thinks!!
Redirection or distraction techniques( e.g. introducing new hobbies and interests) might help, but only if he is prepared to engage
We might both agree he has a problem,
but until he agrees he has a problem ........ Enough said?
Best of luck 2 you. You-ll need it !!
Added post - 07Feb09
There is obviously some confusion over the definition of what is habitual, and what is addictive behaviour
I-m not qualified to comment on the difference.
Consult a psychologist/health pro for adviceMarijuana is not physically addictive. Unlike alcohol, amphetamines, crack, coke and heroin, it is IMPOSSIBLE to get truly addicted to marijuana. There can be a mental addiction, in that case, you-re dealing with an extremely weak individual and you-re probably better off without him anyway. You might want to find a guy that-s grown up enough to deal with his life instead of trying to drown it out with drugs and alcohol. I-d say he-s a loser, he-s irresponsible, stupid, and very weak minded. Please don-t take that as me bagging on the guy, but I too have been in a similar relationship. Only mine lasted a year instead of 10... because I saw through him. I seriously doubt he really has an addiction to the marijuana, maybe he does for the alcohol, but either way he shouldn-t be around your kid(s)... tell social services that you don-t want your child around him until he cleans up or takes some kind of rehab because there definitely is a problem when someone can-t grow up for their own kids.
I-m sorry you had to deal with that kind of guy... it isn-t fun to be the only responsible one. We all have to grow up sometime right?Hey,DawnRenee. How is it going,My dear? It sounds like this man has more of a problem than just this addiction. He has a problem dealing with reality. And the reality for him is,He is a father. He is a father to your child. He needs to grow up and act like a father. He needs to check in for his addiction and get cleaned up. Your child needs a father. And if this man doesn-t quit smoking and drinking,He won-t live much longer. Does he really know what he is saying? He wants to keep smoking pot. If he quits,He will take up drinking. He-s got a major problem. DawnRenee,If you love this man,You will do your best to help him with his problem. He says he isn-t a -pot head-,But in fact,He is. Sounds like not only does he like to smoke pot,But he also likes to run away from his problems. He can-t take the reality that he has a problem. He can-t deal with them so he tries to get high so he can avoid these problems altogether. He can-t keep running away from his problems. He-s gotta stand up and take responsibility for his actions. He-s not a child anymore. He is a father and an adult. He needs to start acting like one. DawnRenee,I-m sorry if it sounds like I am being a total d--k. I don-t mean to. I am certain he does have his better days. You sound like a good person. And I hope this man cleans up his act for you as well as your child-s sake. btw,I am David and it-s an honor to write you tonight. Hope you have a goodnight tonight. Take it easy and God bless. Bye for now.well I hope you know you can-t get -addicted- to marijuana. But drinking you CAN! Pot helps you relax, eases stress and makes you an overall happy person. If hes willing to drink alot more just to get that high? let him smoke it. You-ll have alot more to worry about if he drinks to much.
And you-re child will grow up with alot more problems if he drinks. With pot you can tell your child its his choice and he/she can do whatever he wants when hes/shes 18 but not while hes living at home. when your husband/boyfriend drinks it shows the child alot more than just drinking. Your husband could get so hammered that he would slurr his words, cuss and make a fool outta himself while pot just makes you calm and your just chill.
Don-t get into the whole drinking bull. Its not worth the risk of addiction or dd. Let him stick to pot.As a former pot-head, I think he-s got a big problem and he-s definitely addicted, especially if he-ll drink if he doesn-t have pot. I think the reason for him breaking up with you is cause he doesn-t have the ability to maintain a normal relationship with sober people, and he knows it. Also, it sounds like he-s loosing he grip on reality.
He needs therapy and rehab. He doesn-t know how to appreciate life for what it is, i-ll bet he complains about stuff when he-s sober too. Honestly, I think you can get addicted to pot (whether it-s mental or physical doesn-t make any difference to me) , But it depends on the person. in drug meetings i-ve met people addicted to chocolate, sex, energy drinks, video games, coffee. So, pot addiction is very possible.I think he may have a problem. I always resented my father-s use as a child, and you are doing the right thing by not wanting to expose your own to it. He-s using these flimsy excuses because he isn-t ready to just grow out of it. And while marijuana is not physically addictive, like anything else in this world (food, pornography, sports) it can be mentally addictive. The sad thing is he knows this, otherwise he wouldn-t try to convince to you to deal with it because it-s better than drinking. He-s scared to live life without it. It-s become a coping mechanism. You-re not controlling, you are concerned.
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